For example, on average, women talk faster and use more words daily. Being aware of differences in conversation pace and your volume of words can help bridge a gap between inter-gender communication styles. This can also help your friend feel more at ease. A recent study showed men and women viewed their inter-gender friendships differently. [1] X Research source For example, men are more likely to be attracted to a female friend, and think the attraction is mutual. Knowing these perceptual differences can help avoid unwanted advances and create awareness that each friend may potentially view the relationship differently.
Avoid flirting. Although many guys and girls flirt with one another, for the good of your friendship you should avoid this.
Let them know if you’ve met someone special. One way to create an awkward moment is for you to keep a new romance from your friend. Let him or her know that you’re going on a date, or that you had one that was successful and hope this one will be a keeper. Not only does it keep your friend in the loop of your life, but it also cements the notion that you are friends and only that.
Inter-gender friendships can have benefits that intra-gender friendships do not. You may talk to your girl/boy platonic friend about things that girls or guys do not typically talk to one another. For example, maybe you and your guy friends talk a lot about sports; but not feelings. Your letter is a chance to focus on things that make your friendship special.
If you’re having relationship problems, talk to one of your same gender friends about it and leave it out of the letter. If you do talk about it with your friend of the opposite sex, it would be best to do in person where you are less likely to miscommunicate.
